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What are Erogenous Zones?

Erogenous zones are parts of the body that excite sexual feelings when touched or stimulated. They may be genital or extragenital.


The misconception is that erogenous zones are only below the belt, even the smallest of touches on places like the neck, ears, and even wrists can create an arousal point. 


However, everyone’s body is different, so you likely have more hot spots than you know!


Here are some unlikely pleasure points that are often overlooked:

Scalp

The scalp is full of nerve endings, and even the slightest brush of the hair can send tingles through your body.

To amp up the pleasure, run your fingernails lightly over the scalp, paying special attention to the space behind the ears and just above the neck.

Don’t forget about the hair. Gentle tugging can send waves of pleasure through the body.


Ears

With sensitive skin on the outside and hundreds of sensory receptors on the inside, the ears top the list of erogenous zones for many people.

For some sexy aural action that’s sure to please, try lightly kissing, licking, or nibbling your partner’s earlobes.

You can also take advantage of those sensory receptors by whispering or lightly blowing into their ear for more tingly feels.


Naval and Lower Stomach

Being dangerously close to the genitals makes this area especially arousing.

Use your tongue, fingertips, or even a feather to trace circles around the navel and tease your way down and all around the stomach.

This is a great spot for some temperature play, so use an ice cube if your partner is into it.

Playing solo? Caress the area to get yourself in the mood.


Small of the Back

It could have something to do with the fact that the nerves in this portion of the spine are connected to the pelvis or the vulnerability factor of being touched from behind that makes this area so sensitive.

Whatever it is, the slightest touch here can evoke pleasure. Tickle the area with a feather or your lips and tongue.

Feeling adventurous? Try an ice cube, a vibrator, or pinwheel for some sensory play.


Inner Armpits

Think armpits can’t be sexy? Two words: “Dirty Dancing.”

You know that scene where Johnny runs the back of his hand down Baby’s arm, grazing her armpit?

She giggles at first, but once she gets past the tickle response, it’s totally hot.

A light touch is all you need to turn the tickle to totally titillating. Run your fingertips, your tongue, or even a feather slowly along the inner arm to the armpit.

Inner Wrist

Home of the pulse point and not used to getting a lot of action, the inner wrist is highly sensitive.

Caress the skin with your fingertips while looking at your partner suggestively from across the table, or anywhere else for that matter, when trying to set the mood.

Already in the throes of passion? Try intertwining your fingers with theirs and graze the skin on their inner wrists with your lips and tip of your tongue.


Palm of Hands and Fingertips

The fingertips are the part of the body most sensitive trusted source to touch, and your palms aren’t far behind.

Place your hand under theirs with your palm facing up, and tickle their palm with your index finger.

If you want to up the intimacy, maintain eye contact while you do it.

You can kick it up a billion notches by taking each of their fingers into your mouth, one by one, and sucking lightly.


Behind the Knee

This is another often neglected area that’s incredibly sensitive to any kind of touch. It’s even ticklish for some.

Give the area some special attention during a massage, or use your mouth and tongue there before working your way up or down the leg.


Here are some very familiar and most common hot spots: 

Areola and Nipples

Nipple stimulation lights up the same area in the brain as the genitals.

Start with a light touch, and anything goes here. Lips, tongue, a feather, or a small vibrator are just a few ideas.

Trace around the areola before moving onto the nipple and sucking, licking, and even flicking. Blow or use an ice cube for some sexy cool.

If your partner likes it rough, graze the nipple with your teeth. Rougher still? Try nipple clamps.


Mouth and Lips

Kissing is an art, and we suggest using every inch of their lips and mouth as your canvas.

Trace the shape of their lips with your tongue before moving to a slow, wet kiss, or gently suck or nibble on their bottom lip.


Neck

When it comes to the neck, even the slightest touch can make your entire body tingle.

Wrap your arms around your partner, and run your fingernails along the back of their neck, moving to the area behind the ears before making your way around the front.

Move on to softly kissing the sides and front of the neck before working your way to the lips or heading south where it’s even hotter.


Inner thigh

The inner thighs are so sensitive and oh-so-close to the ultimate erogenous zone that even just a graze can set your loins ablaze.

Run your fingertips down the front of the thighs, slowly moving your way inward while you kiss their lips, neck, and chest.

When you’re ready to get up close and personal, blanket the area in soft, wet kisses and licks.


Bottom of Feet

Pressure points in the bottom of the feet can increase blood flow and enhance feelings of arousal when manipulated just right.

Experiment with different pressures when massaging the feet, starting light and working your way deeper until you find what works.

If you’re both into it, alternate between massaging and licking the foot. Move on to gently sucking each toe, one by one.


The obvious below the belt favorites: 

Vaginal Region: 


Pubic Mound

The mons pubis, the fleshy mound just above the clitoris, is rich in nerve endings that are connected to the genitals. Massaging the area in an up and down motion can indirectly stimulate the labia and clitoris.

If your partner is receptive to more, move on to kissing the area, then use the tip of your tongue to lick your way down. If you’re playing with yourself, massage or vibe to up your arousal.


Clitoris

This small pleasure bud contains over 8,000 nerve endings and is covered by a hood. Gently take it between your index and middle finger and slide it slowly in an up-and-down motion.

Want more? Use your fingers or a clitoral vibrator and rub your nub using light pressure. Experiment with direction and tempo to find what feels best.

For some good tongue action, start slow and increase your speed and pressure.


A-Spot

The lower part of the vaginal opening is full of erotically charged nerve endings and home to the anterior fornix (A-spot).

Use fingers, a dildo, or penis to penetrate the vagina, and focus pressure on the front wall while sliding in and out.


G-Spot

The G-spot is an area capable of causing what’s known as female ejaculation. Fingers or a curved G-spot vibrator are your best bet for reaching it.

With a good amount of lube, turn your vibrator or finger upward toward the navel and move it in a “come hither” motion.

Find what feels good and keep at it, allowing the sensation to build.


Cervix

A person needs to be fully aroused to enjoy cervical stimulation, so foreplay is a must.

Any deep-penetration sex position can do it. Doggy style is a good one that can be performed using a strap-on or regular dildo, too. When you find a depth and motion that feels good, keep going.

Cervical orgasms are similar to what’s called a full body orgasm in tantric sex, so you’re in for a treat if you can get there.

Penial Region:


Glans

The glans penis is what’s known as the head. Thanks to 4,000 nerve endings, it’s the most sensitive part of the penis.

Tease it by rubbing your wet lips gently over the fleshy head before using the tip of your tongue around the rim. Next, take the glans into your mouth, swirling your tongue around it.

A well-lubed hand can also work wonders.


Frenulum

This is the elastic piece of skin on the underside of the penis, where the shaft meets the head. It’s highly sensitive and the primary trigger of orgasms in people with penises.

Hands or mouth — it’s all good here.

To get handy with it, slide your lubed hand up and down the shaft, letting your thumb graze the F-spot. During a blow job, make sure your tongue pays extra attention to this hot spot.


Foreskin

The foreskin is filled with nerve endings that actually enhance pleasure for those with uncircumcised penises. This thin layer of skin provides the opportunity to mix it up for different sensations during a hand job or blow job.

You can let it glide over the penis and glands with each stroke or gently retract it to focus on the naked F-spot and head. Be gentle and use lube.

Scrotum and Testicles

The coin purse is filled with super-sensitive nerves waiting to be enjoyed. Gently massage the balls during a blow job, hand job, or while masturbating.

Up the pleasure by showing the scrotal raphe some love. This is the seam that runs down the center of the scrotum. Run your finger gently up and down the raphe while masturbating, or let your tongue work its magic on the seam when performing oral.


Perineum

This sensitive patch of skin lies between the scrotum and anus. You can reach this hot southern destination from pretty much any position on yourself or someone else.

Reach beyond the sack during a hand job or blow job and rub it, or reach between the legs during missionary sex. Use your knuckle to apply pressure while sliding it back and forth. Do it as ejaculation nears for a mind-blowing climax.


Prostate

This walnut-sized gland sits at the root of the penis and can lead to powerful, sheet-twisting orgasms. You can only reach the P-spot via B-town, so a well-lubed finger or prostate vibrator works best.

Gently insert your finger or vibrator a couple of inches into the rectum, applying pressure to the front wall. When you find the right move, keep at it. Stroke or suck the penis at the same time for maximum pleasure.


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What are Erogenous Zones?

Erogenous zones are parts of the body that excite sexual feelings when touched or stimulated. They may be genital or extragenital.


The misconception is that erogenous zones are only below the belt, even the smallest of touches on places like the neck, ears, and even wrists can create an arousal point. 


However, everyone’s body is different, so you likely have more hot spots than you know!


Here are some unlikely pleasure points that are often overlooked:

Scalp

The scalp is full of nerve endings, and even the slightest brush of the hair can send tingles through your body.

To amp up the pleasure, run your fingernails lightly over the scalp, paying special attention to the space behind the ears and just above the neck.

Don’t forget about the hair. Gentle tugging can send waves of pleasure through the body.


Ears

With sensitive skin on the outside and hundreds of sensory receptors on the inside, the ears top the list of erogenous zones for many people.

For some sexy aural action that’s sure to please, try lightly kissing, licking, or nibbling your partner’s earlobes.

You can also take advantage of those sensory receptors by whispering or lightly blowing into their ear for more tingly feels.


Naval and Lower Stomach

Being dangerously close to the genitals makes this area especially arousing.

Use your tongue, fingertips, or even a feather to trace circles around the navel and tease your way down and all around the stomach.

This is a great spot for some temperature play, so use an ice cube if your partner is into it.

Playing solo? Caress the area to get yourself in the mood.


Small of the Back

It could have something to do with the fact that the nerves in this portion of the spine are connected to the pelvis or the vulnerability factor of being touched from behind that makes this area so sensitive.

Whatever it is, the slightest touch here can evoke pleasure. Tickle the area with a feather or your lips and tongue.

Feeling adventurous? Try an ice cube, a vibrator, or pinwheel for some sensory play.


Inner Armpits

Think armpits can’t be sexy? Two words: “Dirty Dancing.”

You know that scene where Johnny runs the back of his hand down Baby’s arm, grazing her armpit?

She giggles at first, but once she gets past the tickle response, it’s totally hot.

A light touch is all you need to turn the tickle to totally titillating. Run your fingertips, your tongue, or even a feather slowly along the inner arm to the armpit.

Inner Wrist

Home of the pulse point and not used to getting a lot of action, the inner wrist is highly sensitive.

Caress the skin with your fingertips while looking at your partner suggestively from across the table, or anywhere else for that matter, when trying to set the mood.

Already in the throes of passion? Try intertwining your fingers with theirs and graze the skin on their inner wrists with your lips and tip of your tongue.


Palm of Hands and Fingertips

The fingertips are the part of the body most sensitive trusted source to touch, and your palms aren’t far behind.

Place your hand under theirs with your palm facing up, and tickle their palm with your index finger.

If you want to up the intimacy, maintain eye contact while you do it.

You can kick it up a billion notches by taking each of their fingers into your mouth, one by one, and sucking lightly.


Behind the Knee

This is another often neglected area that’s incredibly sensitive to any kind of touch. It’s even ticklish for some.

Give the area some special attention during a massage, or use your mouth and tongue there before working your way up or down the leg.


Here are some very familiar and most common hot spots: 

Areola and Nipples

Nipple stimulation lights up the same area in the brain as the genitals.

Start with a light touch, and anything goes here. Lips, tongue, a feather, or a small vibrator are just a few ideas.

Trace around the areola before moving onto the nipple and sucking, licking, and even flicking. Blow or use an ice cube for some sexy cool.

If your partner likes it rough, graze the nipple with your teeth. Rougher still? Try nipple clamps.


Mouth and Lips

Kissing is an art, and we suggest using every inch of their lips and mouth as your canvas.

Trace the shape of their lips with your tongue before moving to a slow, wet kiss, or gently suck or nibble on their bottom lip.


Neck

When it comes to the neck, even the slightest touch can make your entire body tingle.

Wrap your arms around your partner, and run your fingernails along the back of their neck, moving to the area behind the ears before making your way around the front.

Move on to softly kissing the sides and front of the neck before working your way to the lips or heading south where it’s even hotter.


Inner thigh

The inner thighs are so sensitive and oh-so-close to the ultimate erogenous zone that even just a graze can set your loins ablaze.

Run your fingertips down the front of the thighs, slowly moving your way inward while you kiss their lips, neck, and chest.

When you’re ready to get up close and personal, blanket the area in soft, wet kisses and licks.


Bottom of Feet

Pressure points in the bottom of the feet can increase blood flow and enhance feelings of arousal when manipulated just right.

Experiment with different pressures when massaging the feet, starting light and working your way deeper until you find what works.

If you’re both into it, alternate between massaging and licking the foot. Move on to gently sucking each toe, one by one.


The obvious below the belt favorites: 

Vaginal Region: 


Pubic Mound

The mons pubis, the fleshy mound just above the clitoris, is rich in nerve endings that are connected to the genitals. Massaging the area in an up and down motion can indirectly stimulate the labia and clitoris.

If your partner is receptive to more, move on to kissing the area, then use the tip of your tongue to lick your way down. If you’re playing with yourself, massage or vibe to up your arousal.


Clitoris

This small pleasure bud contains over 8,000 nerve endings and is covered by a hood. Gently take it between your index and middle finger and slide it slowly in an up-and-down motion.

Want more? Use your fingers or a clitoral vibrator and rub your nub using light pressure. Experiment with direction and tempo to find what feels best.

For some good tongue action, start slow and increase your speed and pressure.


A-Spot

The lower part of the vaginal opening is full of erotically charged nerve endings and home to the anterior fornix (A-spot).

Use fingers, a dildo, or penis to penetrate the vagina, and focus pressure on the front wall while sliding in and out.


G-Spot

The G-spot is an area capable of causing what’s known as female ejaculation. Fingers or a curved G-spot vibrator are your best bet for reaching it.

With a good amount of lube, turn your vibrator or finger upward toward the navel and move it in a “come hither” motion.

Find what feels good and keep at it, allowing the sensation to build.


Cervix

A person needs to be fully aroused to enjoy cervical stimulation, so foreplay is a must.

Any deep-penetration sex position can do it. Doggy style is a good one that can be performed using a strap-on or regular dildo, too. When you find a depth and motion that feels good, keep going.

Cervical orgasms are similar to what’s called a full body orgasm in tantric sex, so you’re in for a treat if you can get there.

Penial Region:


Glans

The glans penis is what’s known as the head. Thanks to 4,000 nerve endings, it’s the most sensitive part of the penis.

Tease it by rubbing your wet lips gently over the fleshy head before using the tip of your tongue around the rim. Next, take the glans into your mouth, swirling your tongue around it.

A well-lubed hand can also work wonders.


Frenulum

This is the elastic piece of skin on the underside of the penis, where the shaft meets the head. It’s highly sensitive and the primary trigger of orgasms in people with penises.

Hands or mouth — it’s all good here.

To get handy with it, slide your lubed hand up and down the shaft, letting your thumb graze the F-spot. During a blow job, make sure your tongue pays extra attention to this hot spot.


Foreskin

The foreskin is filled with nerve endings that actually enhance pleasure for those with uncircumcised penises. This thin layer of skin provides the opportunity to mix it up for different sensations during a hand job or blow job.

You can let it glide over the penis and glands with each stroke or gently retract it to focus on the naked F-spot and head. Be gentle and use lube.

Scrotum and Testicles

The coin purse is filled with super-sensitive nerves waiting to be enjoyed. Gently massage the balls during a blow job, hand job, or while masturbating.

Up the pleasure by showing the scrotal raphe some love. This is the seam that runs down the center of the scrotum. Run your finger gently up and down the raphe while masturbating, or let your tongue work its magic on the seam when performing oral.


Perineum

This sensitive patch of skin lies between the scrotum and anus. You can reach this hot southern destination from pretty much any position on yourself or someone else.

Reach beyond the sack during a hand job or blow job and rub it, or reach between the legs during missionary sex. Use your knuckle to apply pressure while sliding it back and forth. Do it as ejaculation nears for a mind-blowing climax.


Prostate

This walnut-sized gland sits at the root of the penis and can lead to powerful, sheet-twisting orgasms. You can only reach the P-spot via B-town, so a well-lubed finger or prostate vibrator works best.

Gently insert your finger or vibrator a couple of inches into the rectum, applying pressure to the front wall. When you find the right move, keep at it. Stroke or suck the penis at the same time for maximum pleasure.


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"58.8% of women have faked an orgasm at some point in time."

Why Women Fake It?

According to Karla Ivankovich, PhD, a clinical counselor and couples therapist, many women start faking orgasms because they think, 'It’s okay that sex isn’t perfect now because it’s early and it could totally get better.'


Women are perfectly content with the emotional connection with their partner, and they’re less focused on the sexual connection at that time. What matters most in a relationship is also unique to each person; some value sex more than others; some value emotional connection. But most soon discover that the issues of bad sex and faux enjoyment are complicated.


While orgasms mark the peak of physical pleasure, there are also emotional components tied to it like intimacy, self-esteem, and ego- especially in men. Women have been taught that a male partner takes it as a direct insult to his manhood if he can’t get her to climax. These gendered expectations are part of the reason why orgasms are more frequent among lesbian women than straight and bi women. As “people-pleasers,” women are conditioned to make the best of situations, says Sunny Rodgers, a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach. The faking charade is generally not ill-intentioned. “They don’t want their partners to feel like they can’t provide them with an orgasm,” she says. “A couple of moans later, and they feel they’ve helped create a bond with their partners and assure them of their prowess.”

The Fauxgasm Cycle

Feigning pleasure is most problematic in that exact scenario — when it’s a habitual action. At best, your partner thinks they are more sexually skilled than they actually are, but there are even more downsides. An orgasm is an indicator to your partner that what they are doing feels good and that they should keep on doing it. So, if you’re faking your experience of pleasure, you are reinforcing their behavior in a way that does not actually satisfy you. 


Women are putting their partners egos ahead of their own sexual pleasure therefore making it a normalized part of female sexual experiences. Chances are, especially if you’re with a male partner, he’s not even going to notice that your dramatics are just that. Rodgers says most men still assume the female orgasm works just like theirs. “Men have a very hard time faking an orgasm, and their bodies react differently to vaginal intercourse, allowing them to climax the vast majority of the time. Women, however, are not always guaranteed an orgasm without additional clitoral stimulation.” According to recent studies, fewer than 25 percent of women are able to climax from penetration alone.


Faking orgasms deprives you from receiving pleasure and your partner from knowing how to turn you on and touch you just right. If you fake your enjoyment you are not being authentic during a sexual encounter. Neither of you benefit from this behavior.

How to Tell Them

The experts actually recommend you don’t start with the most direct approach. If you just lay it out there and state that you haven’t been orgasming, your partner will likely take it as a betrayal — feeling misled is an even harder pill to swallow than the ego bruise. Masturbation is sexual exploration- experimenting with different types of stimulation — without a focus on reaching orgasm — will not only make you a better coach, it’ll likely rev your sex drive altogether, as a result improving your sexual experience within your relationship. 


Next, suggest a new approach to sex with your partner, expanding your repertoire and slowing things down. Instead of wondering why it’s suddenly taking you so much longer to come, your partner may be intrigued by the idea of exploring together. Say you’ve read that you need more clitoral stimulation to have even stronger orgasms, and it might take a while to really get there, clinical sexologists suggest the 20:20 approach, which is 20 minutes of foreplay, slowly removing clothes and warming up, along with 20 minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to reach climax.


Use some gentle, in-bed guidance while you experiment together. Focus on your experience of sexual sensations. Pay more attention to what you like, and what isn’t working so well, and then use positive reinforcement accordingly. If your partner does something that actually feels good, tell them directly. With words! “Like, ‘It feels great when you touch me like that,’ coupled with nonverbal indicators like moaning or heavy breathing,” If they start doing something you don’t like, guide them back to the sexual activity that was working for you.


Rather than using the phrase “faking it,” you might choose to say that you feel like you’re not reaching your full sexual potential.

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"58.8% of women have faked an orgasm at some point in time."

Why Women Fake It?

According to Karla Ivankovich, PhD, a clinical counselor and couples therapist, many women start faking orgasms because they think, 'It’s okay that sex isn’t perfect now because it’s early and it could totally get better.'


Women are perfectly content with the emotional connection with their partner, and they’re less focused on the sexual connection at that time. What matters most in a relationship is also unique to each person; some value sex more than others; some value emotional connection. But most soon discover that the issues of bad sex and faux enjoyment are complicated.


While orgasms mark the peak of physical pleasure, there are also emotional components tied to it like intimacy, self-esteem, and ego- especially in men. Women have been taught that a male partner takes it as a direct insult to his manhood if he can’t get her to climax. These gendered expectations are part of the reason why orgasms are more frequent among lesbian women than straight and bi women. As “people-pleasers,” women are conditioned to make the best of situations, says Sunny Rodgers, a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach. The faking charade is generally not ill-intentioned. “They don’t want their partners to feel like they can’t provide them with an orgasm,” she says. “A couple of moans later, and they feel they’ve helped create a bond with their partners and assure them of their prowess.”

The Fauxgasm Cycle

Feigning pleasure is most problematic in that exact scenario — when it’s a habitual action. At best, your partner thinks they are more sexually skilled than they actually are, but there are even more downsides. An orgasm is an indicator to your partner that what they are doing feels good and that they should keep on doing it. So, if you’re faking your experience of pleasure, you are reinforcing their behavior in a way that does not actually satisfy you. 


Women are putting their partners egos ahead of their own sexual pleasure therefore making it a normalized part of female sexual experiences. Chances are, especially if you’re with a male partner, he’s not even going to notice that your dramatics are just that. Rodgers says most men still assume the female orgasm works just like theirs. “Men have a very hard time faking an orgasm, and their bodies react differently to vaginal intercourse, allowing them to climax the vast majority of the time. Women, however, are not always guaranteed an orgasm without additional clitoral stimulation.” According to recent studies, fewer than 25 percent of women are able to climax from penetration alone.


Faking orgasms deprives you from receiving pleasure and your partner from knowing how to turn you on and touch you just right. If you fake your enjoyment you are not being authentic during a sexual encounter. Neither of you benefit from this behavior.

How to Tell Them

The experts actually recommend you don’t start with the most direct approach. If you just lay it out there and state that you haven’t been orgasming, your partner will likely take it as a betrayal — feeling misled is an even harder pill to swallow than the ego bruise. Masturbation is sexual exploration- experimenting with different types of stimulation — without a focus on reaching orgasm — will not only make you a better coach, it’ll likely rev your sex drive altogether, as a result improving your sexual experience within your relationship. 


Next, suggest a new approach to sex with your partner, expanding your repertoire and slowing things down. Instead of wondering why it’s suddenly taking you so much longer to come, your partner may be intrigued by the idea of exploring together. Say you’ve read that you need more clitoral stimulation to have even stronger orgasms, and it might take a while to really get there, clinical sexologists suggest the 20:20 approach, which is 20 minutes of foreplay, slowly removing clothes and warming up, along with 20 minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to reach climax.


Use some gentle, in-bed guidance while you experiment together. Focus on your experience of sexual sensations. Pay more attention to what you like, and what isn’t working so well, and then use positive reinforcement accordingly. If your partner does something that actually feels good, tell them directly. With words! “Like, ‘It feels great when you touch me like that,’ coupled with nonverbal indicators like moaning or heavy breathing,” If they start doing something you don’t like, guide them back to the sexual activity that was working for you.


Rather than using the phrase “faking it,” you might choose to say that you feel like you’re not reaching your full sexual potential.

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Finding the best toy for you and your partner is always a tough decision! Make it easier with some of our best sellers and best recommendations. You are sure to find something that gets your heart rate going and your pleasure sensors tingling.
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