Anal Sex: not your first choice? That’s alright, with the right mind set, being informed on how to make it pleasurable, and a willing and comfortable partner, maybe then you can get into it.
If you didn’t know this already, then listen up- anal play comes in many forms that don’t have to include penetration!
“The anus has a high concentration of nerve endings and is considered an erogenous zone. This makes it a perfect area to focus on in sexual play and touch. Light, manual stimulation is a great way to ease into things and explore some anal foreplay. This is something you can do solo or with a partner. But remember, when trying something new in the bedroom, always make sure you get consent before going there!”- Emily Morse (Sex educator, @sexwithemily)
Touch and Tease
You can simply take your fingers or even the edge of the palm of your hand and lightly rub or touch the area around the anus to stimulate it. You can work your fingers in a small circular motion and definitely use lube to make the movements smoother. Don’t neglect the perineum, especially for you fellas.
Try varying degrees of pressure. Start light and work your way around the entire butt. It might help you to massage your partner’s butt cheeks before you move into the center of the action, to loosen up the area and provide some nice, easy stimulation.
Tip #1: Jump in the shower! Begin exploration of your own body and comfort levels when the area is wet and slippery. This way you can double up on cleaning the area and touching it in ways that feel sensual.
Tip #2: Always make sure to clean your toys before and after use. Never share a vaginal and anal toy in the same session as bacteria can easily be transmitted between areas
Rimming means “[t]he act of using one’s tongue on the anal rim of another person in order to gain and/or give sexual pleasure.”
A far less intrusive and easy stepping stone into anal play. It can bring you closer to your partner and even be used as “prep” for the full thing, when you’re ready.
Tip #3: For a tastier experience, try flavored intimate lubricants. Sensuva offers a wide variety of flavors and even warming and cooling sensations for temperature play.
Advanced Anal: Butt Plugs
Anal penetration by a partner can be overwhelming for some, especially newbies. A lot of emotions can come up during such an intimate activity. It is an area of the body we aren’t used to feeling or talking about in a sexual (or any other) way.
Let’s say you are interested in eventually having anal sex (ie, penetration by a partner), or you want some insertion without full blown anal sex. In that case, butt plugs are the next step! They can be a great way to warm up your butt and get used to having something in there. Start with a small plug and work your way up to bigger ones if you desire. Always make sure you use plenty of lube! You might want to try an inflatable plug.
Plugs can help you have that “full” feeling down there, and if you have one, it can activate your prostate. You can even combine plug and vibration by having a plug in and using a vibrator. Or you can just find a vibrating plug.
Try to keep your butt as relaxed as possible to make insertion easier. Once you’ve experienced anal play and understand how pain and pleasure go hand in hand you’ll be able to enjoy future anal experiences.
Advanced Tip: Using anal beads can provide a euphoric finish to your orgasm if you gently pull the beads out of the anus during climax. Thank us later!